There is no painful feeling like the hurt you feel after a bad break up. You feel like the world has stopped, like everything in the universe is against you. It is a terrible thing to go through. Life has to go on though. Moving on after a break up is hard, but it is possible. Though you can not delete the past, you can go on living without the hurt. One way to get back onto the tracks of your life is trying to forget your ex. There are a few things you can do to help you on your way.
Accept and Believe In Yourself
Difficult as it might seem, accepting that it is over is the first step to getting your life back again. You should start to convince yourself that your happiness depends primarily on you and not the ex, or someone you will meet in the future. You internalize that you really have dust yourself and move on, ex or no ex.
Avoid Mutual Friends
Keep away from mutual friends. Depending on the side they took during the breakup, they will either pity you or look at you with an accusing eye which will only aggravate the pain. Keeping away from mutual friends will give you time to heal as you will not be reminded every other time of what was.
Block your ex from all social networks you mutually belong to. The hurt will be renewed every time you log in to find the ex’s name blinking up there. Keep from looking up what your ex has been up to since the breakup. This will not help matters at all. In fact, it keeps the pain at a simmering level throughout.
Don’t sit in the house all day moping. Get out or invite friends and family to hang out with. They will distract you from your situation and affirm that life indeed goes on after break up. Go out, see a movie, chat over drinks with friends or do anything else other than sit and mope.
Find New Hobbies and Interests
Doing things that you used to do with your ex, or going to the same places will just keep the hurt flowing. Try different things. Check out the new restaurant you heard about, go shopping out of town or even get a new hobby. It is a good time to join the gym you have been procrastinating about, or that morning jog you had given up.
Though drastic, move house if you can. This will help you start afresh without all the reminders that exist in your house about your ex. Leave behind or discard anything that reminds you of your ex and surround yourself with stuff that brings comfort and joy.
…and get your life back!
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